Above is the confirmation from match dotcom that the profile and account are deleted.
I gave it a month.
Had one chat, that didn’t really lead anywhere but a decent amount of ‘views or looks’
My conclusion is that the people I was interested in probably already had chats with other men.
I had looked at ages 39-58 and set searches 10, 20 and 30 miles from me.
Had nothing specified on height/weight and my only real insistence was for non-smokers.
I didn’t feel there was much for me in the 100 cards offered by Match.
I looked at ‘online recently’ and ‘their requirements meet yours’ too.
I think being widowed I’m looking at people older than me and instinctively thinking no.
I’m somewhat unsure where that came from but definitely means I need to scale back upper limit if I look again.
That’s not to say that they weren’t attractive or interesting. My foible.
At lower end, I initially looked at 39-45 year olds and then stopped, my feeling was no, that’s wrong for me and my feeling that they wouldn’t be interested.
Realistically that left 45 to 55 year olds and certainly twenty to thirty suitable profiles that I could have contacted.
I didn’t.
My confidence wasn’t there.
First, I think I’d drag someone down, I look and think, they seem okay and I’d be a lead weight.
Second, I’m looking and thinking she’s a 6,7,8,9 and I’m a 3 maybe 4 at best. That may or may not be true, but my feeling is that I wouldn’t be likely to get a chat never mind anything further.
Third, my circumstances. I could have a great chat with someone and then be stumped when it came to arranging a meet at a coffee house type place. That’s how poor my free time is.
Fourth, I’m conscious of how I look and that I’m balding and grey and I probably look older than my age.
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